Unlock your perceptions
You hold the key and your response to life's events

Life is a Perceptual Experience - You hold the key to unlock your potential
by Yvonne F. Brown

None of us looks at life, its events, conditions, or circumstances the same. We see life not as it is but as we are. Each of us has a mental perceptual filter through which we interpret events, circumstances and other people’s behavior. Ten people can look at the same piece of art, auto accident, movie, sunset, or business opportunity and see it differently. This filter gives diversity to our lives and to our relationship with life's challenges.

One example I use in my seminars on communication is the idea of faults. Do you know of someone who has faults? Be honest now. Look closely at those faults for a moment. Aren’t another persons faults what that person thinks, feels, believes or does differently than how you think they should feel, think, believe or act? The assumption you make when someone else has a fault, is that your way of feeling, acting, responding, etc. is either better than theirs or the right way. Now isn’t that ridiculous? It usuallly gets a big chuckle during my Difficult People seminar when I mention that I have yet to have an attendee walk in and say "I am a difficult person, and I am here to learn how to change that." Someone else is always the difficult one who caused them to attend the program.

First of all, there is no right or wrong; there are only differences. The need to change the other person to your way of thinking because theirs is wrong, and yours is right, is one of the biggest issues that causes stress and conflict in personal relationships and interpersonal communication. Acceptance is one of the biggest hurdles people face in relationships and interpersonal communications. It is also a major issue when it comes to motivating ourselves on a consistent basis. If we fail to perceive life, its events, and people clearly, we tend to fall into a number of de-motivating traps such as, guilt, blame, shame, resentment, anger and any number of other negative emotions. These negative responses color your response in tough situations, how you use your talent, and how you treat others or allow them to treat you on a regular basis.

One of the best indicators of someone who is happy, successful and living with their world in a harmonious way is how clearly they are in touch with reality, not theirs but REALITY. Truth is indisputable. Our interpretation of it does not change anything, and yet many people believe that their truth should be everyone’s truth.

At a recent conference I met a woman named Ping Fu. She is the Chairman, President and CEO of Geomagic, Inc., a company that attracted more than $8 million in capital from private and intitutional investors. Her company has increased its revenue by 381% during the last five years. But that is not what made her stand out in my mind. Her preception of events that happened to her had a powerful impact on me. She came from the bleakness of totalitarianism to become an award winning entrepreneur. At age eight her parents were taken away and as she said, "the communists tried to crush my spirit, but I have a drive to be somebody." She was kicked out of China yet whenever she found a door that was closed to her, a belief that "behind every door there's open spaces" helped her to press on. When she arrived in the United States the only english words she knew were 'thank you, excuse me and I'm sorry." She got her degree in Computer Science because (since computers speak in ones and zeros) that didn't need English and though there were persons trying to block her way, she focused on what she wanted to accomplish.

John Maxwell said, "The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of, and response to failure." Where are your perceptions about life, people, events, circumstances, your past, present or future clouded? Where do you need a clearer vision and more accurate perceptual integrity?

Failure is fertilizer. There's a saying in Texas, "it doesn't matter how much milk you spill as long as you don't lose the cow." You've got to see the bigger picture! Ping not only survived, she thrived. Just remember that " a cumulative effort is what makes tomorrow better than today." The biggest door is in your own mind and your perceptions of your life experiences. Be your biggest advocate, break through perceptions, start every day with a good attitude, and open the door yourself.

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Potentialize Your Opportunities
by Mark Victor Hansen

I remember watching the movie “Dead Poet’s Society” when it was first released in the theatres. Robin Williams’s character is a professor who wants his students to think for themselves, so he makes them stand on top of their desks to view things in a different way. That really stuck with me.

When you think about it, people hardly ever look at the world through their own eyes. They get their information filtered through the eyes of others, whether they’re the eyes of the media, politicians, friends or family. But what looks like one thing to someone may look totally different to someone else. To really see what’s going on in the world, to see what opportunities exist for us, we have to see the world through our own eyes in our own way.

We all need to recognize and potentialize opportunities when we see them. What do I mean by potentialize? When something has potential it has power, it expresses possibility, it is influential and effective.

As we go through each day we should be on the lookout for any situation that expresses possibility. Any situation. To attain the success you desire you have to recognize possibility everywhere and then stretch and flex your mind to create million-dollar ideas. And you’re not limited to just one. The more you practice seeing the possible in daily life, the better you will become. Then you take those small possibilities and potentialize them and create great monetary abundance.

We all have the ability to potentialize opportunities and create phenomenal wealth. And the amazing thing is that there are multiple possibilities for potentalizing in every situation! Just because someone comes up with a new way to do something doesn’t mean that there isn’t yet another way to do it. We have each been blessed with individual characteristics and abilities that no one else has. We each have our own special way of doing things. And that means we each have the ability to potentialize in our own unique way.

'Be grateful for your problems, for they stimulate an ‘I-can-solve-it’ new attitude.'

This article is by Mark Victor Hansen. For more information about Mark Victor Hansen or his CDs, books and/or videos visit www.YourSuccessStore.com or call 877-929-0439.

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Book of the Month:
Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much"
by Anne Wilson Schaef

I love this book. It contains daily meditations in a one page format. We are all very busy and even the author wonders if women who do too much have time to read a meditation book.

One woman, a bank executive, keeps it in her desk and when she feels particularly stressed, she opens it randomly and reads a page. "It always helps" she says.

I know it helps me and is small enough to tuck in my purse too. Frankly, I just make the time every morning. It sets the tone and my mindset for the day.

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Note I received from the Universe today:

You may not ever understand what's going on in their life, Yvonne, but you can always figure out what's going on in yours. —The Universe

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Empowering Your Destiny

This month's Empowering Question
"What tiny step can I take today that will get me another degree closer to overcoming the fear that stops me?"

This month's Empowering Affirmation
"I learn by the mistakes and successes of others as well as my own. I enjoy stories about people who beat the odds. If others can overcome my same challenges, I can too. Every day teaches me more about my limitless potential. I seek to learn something from everyone I meet or read about."

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