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Becoming a
Person of Integrity
A lesson in Character
Building
By Brian Tracy
Integrity
is a value, like persistence, courage and
industriousness. Even more than that, it is the
value that guarantees all the other values. You are a
good person to the degree to which you live your life
consistent with the highest values that you espouse.
Integrity is the quality that locks in your values and
causes you to live consistent with them.
Integrity
is the foundation of character. And character
development is one of the most important activities you
can engage in. Working on your character means
disciplining yourself to do more and more of those
things that a thoroughly honest person would do, under
all circumstances.
To
be impeccably honest with others, you must first be
impeccably honest with yourself. You must be true to
yourself. You must be true to the very best that is in
you, to the very best that you know. Only a person who
is living consistent with his or her highest values and
virtues is really living a life of integrity. And when
you commit to living this kind of life, you will find
yourself continually raising your own standards,
continually refining your definition of integrity and
honesty.
You
can tell how high your level of integrity is by simply
looking at the things you do in your day-to-day life.
You can look at your reactions and responses to the
inevitable ups and downs of life. You can observe the
behaviors you typically engage in and you will then know
the person you are.
The
external manifestation of high integrity is high-quality
work. A person who is totally honest with
himself or herself will be someone who does, or strives
to do, excellent work on every occasion. The totally
honest person recognizes, sometimes unconsciously, that
everything he or she does is a statement about who he or
she really is as a person.
When
you start a little earlier, work a little harder, stay a
little later and concentrate on every detail, you are
practicing integrity in your work. And whether you know
it or not, your true level of integrity is apparent and
obvious to everyone around you.
Perhaps
the most important rule you will ever learn is that your
life only becomes better when you become better.
All
of life is lived from the inside out. At the very core
of your personality lie your values about yourself
and life in general. Your values determine the kind of
person you really are. What you believe has defined your
character and your personality. It is what you stand
for, and what you won't stand for, that tells you and
the world the kind of person you have become.
Ask
yourself this question: What are your five
most important values in life? Your answer will
reveal an enormous amount about you. What would you pay
for, sacrifice for, suffer for and even die for? What
would you stand up for, or refuse to lie down for? What
are the values that you hold most dear? Think these
questions through carefully and, when you get a chance,
write down your answers. Here's another way of asking
that question. What men and women, living or dead, do
you most admire? Once you pick three or four men or
women, the next question is: Why do you admire them?
What values, qualities, or virtues do they have that you
respect and look up to? Can you articulate those
qualities? What is a quality possessed by human beings
in general that you most respect? This is the starting
point for determining your values. The answers to these
questions form the foundation of your character and your
personality.
Once
you have determined your five major values, you should
now organize them in order of importance. What is your
first, most important value? What is your second value?
What is your third value? And so on. Ranking your values
is one of the very best and fastest ways to define your
character.
Remember,
a higher order value will always take precedence over a
lower order value. Whenever you are forced to choose
between acting on one value or another, you always
choose the value that is the highest on your own
personal hierarchy.
Who
you are, in your heart, is evidenced by what you do on a
day-to-day basis, especially when you are pushed
into a position where you have to make a choice between
two values or alternatives. Ralph Waldo Emerson said,
"Guard your integrity as a sacred thing." In
study after study, the quality of integrity, or a
person's adherence to values, ranks as the number one
quality sought in every field. When it comes to
determining whom they will do business with, customers
rank the honesty of a salesperson as the most important
single quality. Even if a they feel that a salesperson's
product, quality and price is superior, customers will
not buy from that salesperson if they feel that he or
she is lacking in honesty and character.
Likewise,
integrity is the number one quality of leadership.
Integrity in leadership is expressed in terms of
constancy and consistency. It is manifested in an
absolute devotion to keeping one's word. The glue that
holds all relationships together-including the
relationship between the leader and the led, is trust,
and trust is based on integrity.
Integrity
is so important that functioning in our society would be
impossible without it. We could not make even a simple
purchase without a high level of confidence that the
price was honest and that the change was correct. The
most successful individuals and companies in America are
those with reputations of high integrity among everyone
they deal with. This level of integrity builds the
confidence that others have in them and enables them to
do more business than their competitors whose ethics may
be a little shaky. Earl Nightingale once wrote, "If
honesty did not exist, it would have to be invented, as
it is the surest way of getting rich." A study at
Harvard University concluded that the most valuable
asset that a company has is how it is known to its
customers, its reputation.
By
the same token, your greatest personal asset is the way
that you are known to your customers. It is your
personal reputation for keeping your word and fulfilling
your commitments. Your integrity precedes you and
affects all of your interactions with other people.
There are several things you can do to move you more
rapidly toward becoming the kind of person that you know
you are capable of becoming. The first, as I
mentioned, is to decide upon your five most important
values in life. Organize them in order of priority. Then
write a brief paragraph defining what each of those
values means to you. A value combined with a definition
becomes an organizing principle, a statement that you
can use to help you make better decisions. It is a
measure and standard which enables you to know how
closely you are adhering to your innermost beliefs and
convictions.
The
second step to developing integrity and character in
yourself is to study men and women of great character.
Study the lives and stories of people like George
Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Florence
Nightingale, Susan B. Anthony and Margaret Thatcher.
Study the people whose strength of character enabled
them to change their world. As you read, think about how
they would behave if they were facing the difficulties
that you face.
Napoleon
Hill, in his book, The Master Key to Riches, tells about
how he created an imaginary board of personal advisors
made up of great figures of history. He chose people
like Napoleon, Lincoln, Jesus, and Alexander the Great.
Whenever he had to make a decision, he would relax
deeply and then imagine that the members of his advisory
council were sitting at a large table in front of him.
He would then ask them what he should do to deal
effectively with a particular situation. In time, they
would begin to give him answers, observations, and
insights that helped him to see more clearly and act
more effectively. This is what a mastermind group
does.
You
can do the same thing. Select someone that you very much
admire for their qualities of courage, tenacity,
honesty, or wisdom. Ask yourself, "What would Jesus
do in my situation?" or, "What would Lincoln
do if he were here at this time?" You will find
yourself with guidance that enables you to be the very
best person that you can possible be.
The
third and most important step in building your
integrity has to do with formulating your approach based
on the psychology of human behavior. We know that if you
feel a particular way, you will act in a manner
consistent with that feeling. For example, if you feel
happy, you will act happy. If you feel angry, you will
act angry. If you feel courageous, you will act
courageously.
But
we also know that you don't always start off feeling the
way you want to. However, because of the Law of
Reversibility, if you act as if you had a particular
feeling, the action will generate the feeling consistent
with it. You can, in effect, act your way into feeling.
You can "fake it until you make it."
You
can become a superior human being by consciously acting
exactly as the kind of person that you would most like
to become. If you behave like an individual of
integrity, courage, resolution, persistence and
character, you will soon create within yourself the
mental structure and habits of such a person. Your
actions will become your reality. You will create a
personality that is consistent with your highest
aspirations.
The
more you walk, talk, and behave consistent with your
highest values, the more you will like yourself and the
better you will feel about yourself. Your self-image
will improve and your level of self-acceptance will go
up. You will feel stronger, bolder, and more capable of
facing any challenge.
There
are three primary areas of your life where acting with
integrity is crucial. These are the three
areas of greatest temptation for forsaking your
integrity, as well as the areas of greatest opportunity
for building your integrity. When you listen to your
inner voice and do what you know to be the right thing
in each of these areas, you will have a sense of peace
and satisfaction that will lead you on to success and
high achievement.
The
first area of integrity has to do with your
relationships with your family and your friends,
the people close to you. Being true to yourself means
living in truth with each person in your life. It means
refusing to say or do something that you don't believe
is right. Living in truth with other people means that
you refuse to stay in any situation where you are
unhappy with the behavior of another person. You refuse
to tolerate it. You refuse to compromise. Psychologists
have determined that most stress and negativity comes
from attempting to live in a way that is not congruent
with your highest values. It is when your life is out of
alignment, when you are doing and saying one thing on
the outside, but really feeling and believing something
different on the inside, that you feel most unhappy.
When you decide to become an individual of character and
integrity, your first action will be to neutralize or
remove all difficult relationships from your life.
This
doesn't mean that you have to go and hit somebody over
the head with a stick. It simply means that you honestly
confront another person and tell them that you are not
happy. Tell them that you would like to reorganize this
relationship so that you feel more content and
satisfied. If the other person is not willing to make
adjustments so that you can be happy, it should be clear
to you that you don't want to be in this relationship
much longer anyway.
The
second area of integrity has to do with
your attitude and behavior toward money.
Casualness toward money brings casualties in your
financial life. You must be fastidious about your
treatment of money, especially other people's money. You
must guard your credit rating the same way you would
guard your honor. You must pay your bills punctually, or
even early. You must keep your promises with regard to
your financial commitments.
The
third area of integrity has to do with your commitments
to others, especially in your business, your work and
your sales activities. Always keep your word. Be
a man or a woman of honor. If you say that you will do
something, do it. If you make a promise, keep it. If you
make a commitment, fulfill it. Be known as the kind of
person that can be trusted absolutely, no matter what
the circumstances.
Your
integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to
the values you hold most dear. It's easy to make
promises and hard to keep them, but if you do, every
single act of integrity will make your character a
little stronger. And as you improve the quality and
strength of your character, every other part of your
life will improve as well. Reprinted
with permission of Brian Tracy
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