Self-love, Mirror Work, and the Selfie Take Charge of Your Life

Selfish Girl

When I came to America from Jamaica many decades ago I was a 17-year-old very happy young lady who was in love with herself.

I remember vividly how much that annoyed my mother.  She actually would tell me “you're a very selfish girl. Selfish, selfish, selfish.”

There's a mole under my top lip. When I showed it to my mom and asked her what that means she said “it means you’re a selfish liar.” I never forgot that. Of course today I know better. Back then I just ignored her comments.

I was reminded of this today when I received two new emails from Hay House, one of my favorite companies, talking about a new program about mirror work. It's called “Loving Yourself: 21 days to Improve Self-Esteem.

The first email was called “The power and rewards of self-love.”  It got my attention because that's exactly what my mother was so angry with me about when I was 17 years old. It got so bad, that by the time I was 18 I moved out of her house and was on my own.  So I came to America and one year was all that I could take it of this discouragement, so I left.

That’s right. I went out on my own at about age 18 and I never looked back. I did not talk to my mom for a couple of decades because I felt as though she was telling me that self-love is selfish and her words were holding back.

I had plans for my future, and had no intention of letting anyone get in my way or stop me from being my authentic self and living a life of limitless possibilities. Me Inc.

Of course she's quite proud of me and what I've achieved in my life today. But back then she just couldn't see it.  She thought of self-love as a negative thing. She thought looking at yourself in the mirror, giving yourself love was a negative thing. I knew better then and I know better today.

Now that bullying is out of the closet, everyone knows that people are getting bullied all the time. The mirror work would be very helpful for people who are getting bullied.

By learning self-love and doing mirror work, (talking to yourself in the mirror and saying "I love you" to the person you see in the mirror) regardless of what you look like, you can encourage your authentic self. Then whatever the bullies want to say or do won’t get to you, because you know you are.

You can use self-love to heal your body, heal your heart, lose weight, and soothe your spirit.

Were living in the age of selfies. Everyone's taking pictures of themselves everywhere you look they are using the selfie stick so they can get it just right. Here's the thing though, I don't believe it's because of self-love.

February is the month of love and Valentine's Day.  Yet often we hear people talk about how they have no one  to spend time with on Valentine's Day and feel lonely. 

I explained to one of my friends this year, that you can bet on self-love.  It can help you have a wonderful day. Just go out for a nice meal by yourself, spend time getting to know yourself through self-reflection. The truth is the better that you know yourself, the easier it is to have self-love.

And if you know yourself and you’re one of those people who say “but Yvonne I know myself and knowing me I don't have self-love” then do some mirror work. 

I daresay it will help you to learn to appreciate yourself. And as you learn to appreciate yourself you'll find doors opening all over the place because that is the key to self-fulfillment, boundaryless dreams and limitless possibilities.

 

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