So it was with disgust that I listened to Microsoft's CEO last week telling women to just sit there and wait for their managers and company to recognize their hard work.

I wanted to reach through the TV set and slap him silly. Such talk is a way to put the women's movement of equal pay for equal work back decades. To begin with, women still don't make equal pay for equal work yet. So sitting around waiting for the men to bring it to you is just plain ridiculous.

Microsoft CEO to women: Not asking for a raise is 'good karma'

Now Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella is back pedaling and has disavowed controversial comments he made at the women's tech conference, including the suggestion that women who don't ask for raises will receive "good karma."  

Worse yet, he made the statement at a prestigious women in technology conference. The man actually said “It’s not really about asking for a raise, but knowing and having faith that the system will give you the right raise.”

My Six Figure Salary

The first time I was offered a six figure salary it was because I requested it. The offer was close and rather than just jumping on it, I negotiated more. Then I proudly presented my offer letter to my husband Bill to prove that it was real. It was an accomplishment that made me proud.

As a woman with a computer science degree, I was working with three minority challenges. I am a woman, I am Jamaican American, and the technology field is mostly filled with men.  

I worked my ass off to get to the six figure salary and still had to ask for it. It was not handed to me. 

Judge Judy Salary Negotiation Technique

I am a HUGE fan of Judge Judy and am currently reading her book, "Don't Pee on My Leg and Tell Me It's Raining," which is what I think Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella is doing to women with his statement.

I recently finished reading another book by Judge Judy titled "What Would Judge Judy Say? Be The Hero of Your Own Story" that was virtually impossible to put down. 

One of my favorite things I learned in that book is how Judge Judy negotiates her salary. 

In the book she shares how at a certain point in her career as Judge Judy she stepped out of the box called "Contract Negotiation" and so arrived for the negotiation talks with an envelope.  

She told them "this is what it will take for me to continue with the show" and has continued that tradition with the new president of the network and still uses that method.

Today Judge Judy Sheindlin is the highest paid TV star and earns $47 Million per year!